Love Is Unselfish
First Corinthians 12:4-8 “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
I’ve been soul-searching of late, and someone suggested I read some scripture for guidance and peace of mind.
I’m not someone who usually quotes from the Bible, but I thought I could do with a different approach.
My usual approach is one of healthy skepticism. A devil’s advocate, if you will.
But as satisfying as it has been to gain the higher ground; to find myself in the right most of the time, there is a pervasive emptiness that keeps loving relationships and lasting happiness out of my reach.
So here I find myself, on a Wednesday afternoon, reading scripture online and trying to decide if I can bring myself to accept the wisdom therein.
The first one I connect to is one of the most well-known, and oft-quoted:
First Corinthians 12: 4-8.
My favourite part of it – “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Perhaps it’s because I currently find myself wrestling with emotions of that nature.
Of sacrifice, of belief in someone other than myself, of placing myself at the mercy of someone else. Of enduring all things.
My Dad always used to say, no man is an island.
He would say this when my stubbornness prevented me from engaging in a healthy father-daughter relationship with him. I could never just let it be, let him be. I could never just leave anything alone or enjoy our time together. I always had to be right.
I resented everything he said that was contrary to what I believed, as I believed what I believed and that was that.
Hubris. It will fuck you up.
It’s taken me a long time to accept that my ego has brought me as much pain as it has opportunity.
And as I find myself surrounded by empty seats and lost connections, it’s been humbling, no, humiliating, to have to accept that if I want anything to change, it must begin with me.
So here I am, googling scripture on a Wednesday afternoon, trying to find something that connects me to something more than my beloved life truths.
“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Endures all things.
This is what I need right now. To put my faith in what I have in my heart. It’s real, and it comes from me.
I don’t know if it’s enough to repair relationships and friendships I may have lost, but it’s a good start for repairing my relationship with myself and those still left around me.
So here goes nothing..